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The Ultimate Guide in Choosing Flowers to Comfort

Flower arrangement for funeral services is an ancient tradition of anointing the dead with herbs and flowers. Nowadays, flowers are placed on top of the casket or in the actual grave site. Flowers remind the grieving family and friends of the beautiful life led by the departed.

Though flowers are not mandatory in funeral services, they always give that pleasant sense of comfort and warmth to those who were left behind. They express sympathy and love for the family.

Floral arrangements greatly vary according to the family’s spiritual beliefs or background ethnicity. When sending your flowers to the bereaved, include your first and last name on the card to avoid any confusion for the survivors.

funeralFlowers should be at the funeral home before the wake or visiting hours and before the family arrives. You can send a wreath, a flower stand, or even potted plants. Potted plants are slowly becoming popular these days because they represent continued life and growth.

Flower arrangements in funeral services come in several types. There are etiquettes for flower arrangement that are based on the degree of your relationship or closeness to the person.

The large floral arrangements that usually adorn the top of the casket are reserved for those who are truly closest to the deceased. Most likely, they are from the immediately family.

If you had a close personal relationship with the deceased, you may choose to send any floral arrangement. Choose flowers that speak of their legacy and personality. Consult the one who manages the funeral first if you are unsure of the suitability of the flowers.

If you are not personally acquainted with the person but closely associated with the family, you may appropriately send a flower basket as a gift. Children who are close relatives also have a role. Instead of flowers, they can help put floral pillows on the casket before the body is placed inside. Regrettably, if the deceased is a child, you can send flowers arranged as children’s toys.

There may be some local florists who personally know the deceased. It is apt to ask them for advice on flower choices. They can also offer some trends and local traditions on floral choices.

You can choose from several arrangements aside from cut flowers, container arrangements, or baskets, which are commonly used in funeral services. Floral wreaths are acceptable gifts. The circular form of the wreath symbolizes the eternal life that awaits the departed. Sprays are flowers that can only be viewed from a single side. Occasionally, small flowers or mini-floral sprays are placed in the casket.

Popular flowers on the market for this occasion are chrysanthemums, carnations, roses, lilies, and gladiolas. You can choose their color according to the meaning they symbolize. White and blue flowers represent peace and comfort. White lilies are especially comforting flowers in these times. Even the types of flowers signify the message you want to convey to the deceased and his family.

Here is a brief list you can choose from:

•Camelia is for appreciation.

•White chrysanthemum is for truth while red chrysanthemum is for love.

•Apple blossom signifies that better things are yet to come.

•Daisy and lilacs are for innocence.

•Ferns are for sincerity.

•Daffodils are for warm regard.

•Forget-me-nots are appropriate for remembrance and love.

•Flowering almonds and snowdrops are best in conveying hope.

•Irises and tulips are for affection.

•Ivy, violets, and lemon blossoms symbolize perpetual fidelity.

•Orange blossoms are for purity.

•Rosemary is for remembrance.

Don’t forget to take into account the culture and religious beliefs of the grieving family. Some religious guidelines only allow certain flowers or arrangements and some find flowers inappropriate during a funeral service. For example, Eastern Orthodox values white flowers the most in a memorial service. Some Islamic funerals won’t allow you to bring flowers. Flowers are not part of the Hindu funeral practice, but they are not discouraged.

Always consider flowers that may be well received by the mournful. They are gifts to offer affection and sympathy but not discomfort. The key is to respect their rules and practices. A funeral is a time for peaceful consolation and fond remembrance and flowers will help you express your respect and love.